Groundhog Day. An example of the possibility of kindness in a world desperate for warmth.

So far this winter is dark, cold and most of us have had enough of ice and snow and according to the local Groundhog, spring is still far away.

I don’t know about you but this past January treated me to some of the worst blues that I have had in years. It could have been the weather or the after holiday season let down or just what was going on in the world but I noticed that I was crabby and not kind.  So this  past Groundhog day I decided to make a new resolution to stir my self out of hibernation and to be more kind. Here is how I decided to go about it.

What I did learn is that there is no secret or trick to being more kind, it’s something you just have to do. However, increasing your own kindness is easier when you have a plan or a path to follow.

First, I focused on increasing showing kindness to myself. This meant treating my body and mind with respect. It did not mean splurging and buying treats or gifts. I had had enough of those already! But for example, if I had a stressful day, gave myself time at night to reflect, unwind, and meditate. This process also included things like working out, or taking a relaxing bath. Treating yourself with kindness can also mean eating healthier, getting a proper amount of sleep, and avoiding negativity.

Next, I started to work towards showing increased kindness to friends and family. How you do this may depend on your situation; use common sense to identify ways where you can give someone a friendly compliment, a favor, or a gift. However, don’t overdo it or you’ll appear like you have some ulterior motive. Doing little things here and there is the best way to gradually increase your kindness towards others, while at the same time adjusting your habits to a new standard.

Once you have increased your kindness to yourself and to friends and family (and are consistently doing so) you can move on to showing more kindness to strangers and people whom you are not well acquainted with. For example, if you happen to pass someone by, smile and say hello. Don’t worry about what they do in response. Obviously this won’t work if you are in a crowded area, just use good sense to figure out what is appropriate to your situation. Keep an eye open for opportunities to show kindness to strangers and if you see a chance, take it.

I am not suggesting that these steps will fix all that we are currently dealing with in our lives but they did make me feel a little less blue and more for lack of a better word, Kind.

How did you deal with any blues you may have had this past month or are you still dealing with them.

From deep inside my burrow with chirps and growls and snores.

Let Me Know.






Dear God its me Danielle. A breast cancer story.


Are you there God it’s me Dani. Mom gave me a copy of the new Judy Blume Book, Are you there “God it’s me Margaret” and I just finished reading it.   What a really cool book. I was wondering God if you could help me out like you helped out Margaret.

Margaret really wanted her period to happen I don’t really care about that, but I’d really like to grow some boobs. Laurie and Sylvie have them, and it looks like Bev and Tiffany are starting to grow some too I don’t have anything. All I have is that stupid picture of me that we took at an amusement park where I’m wearing a bikini. It’s not a real bikini my face is shoved into hole with a painting of some cartoon figure that’s got a way more developed body than mine. Bruno says he would kiss me if I had boobs that big. Nobody wants to kiss me now.

Please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Hi God it’s me Dani. I’ve been praying for boobs now forever! Every night for at least two months! And I have grown nothing. Not even a pimple.

Please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Are you there God it’s me Dani I start boarding school next week and I still don’t have boobs and in setting me up Mom bought me a bunch of bras. She won’t be around while I’m at school. Lucky Her! Mom will be back home. So she bought me “One of every kind!” Kind of a waste of money I think.

Please God? Hail Mary, full of Grace.

Are you there God it’s me Danielle. I’m using my real name now because I am tired of the other girls calling me “Danny Boy” I thought I might be getting fat a because now I’m eating as many chips I want to for the first time in my whole life. (Mom is not around to nag). Chips are not making my face look any better. “It looks like a flower garden full of white and red roses.” As Mom would say. However I think I might be getting boobs!

Can you make them this big please God? Hail Mary, full of Grace.

Are you there God it’s me Danielle thank you for the boobs it’s totally cool going back home for Christmas and finally having boobs! I’ve packed “One of every kind of bra” just for the hell of it!!

Thanks God! Hail Mary, full of Grace.

Are you there God it’s me Danielle I need some help with these boobs. Please help me get them to work. I know it’s been at least 15 years since you and I talked about them. Thanks for them, they worked great! I filled out my prom and wedding dress with them and my darling husband loves them. But right now I’m sitting here with this squalling creature trying to stuff my nipple into its mouth. They are huge and they hurt and this tiny creature can’t seem to get its little mouth onto something that’s the size of its head.

Can you help please God? Hail Mary full of Grace


Are you there God it’s me Danielle I’ve had a million people handling these boobs and no success going to the breast-feeding clinic please this baby is not gaining weight as he should. Can you help please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Are you there God it’s me Dani. I know we’ve spoken about other topics quite a bit in the past for the past few years. But I’m asking another favor about my boobs. I know a bitched and whined complained and said they were too big and too small or leaky or saggy but right now I just like to be able to test negative and be able to keep them.

Please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Let’s Make Resolutions


In our hearts we know the best thing to do, but fail to do it. New Year’s resolutions are great examples of this. We make resolutions because we know it would be better for us to lose weight, or get fit, or spend more time with those that matter most to us. The problem is that a resolution is generally easier to break than it is to keep. This year let’s try something new. We are going to cast aside the idea that we need improvement, this year we will accept who we are and understand that by doing so we are empowering ourselves to take the path that is best suited for us. Let’s embrace the idea of self love, and by doing this we will only feed our body and mind with the best. Lets make these our resolutions…
• I will love, laugh and hug everyone more often, even if others think I am crazy.
• I will give up limiting beliefs, relationships and habits, even if doing so leaves me naked and vulnerable and scared.
• I will ask for help, even if doing so makes me feel or look weak or silly.
• I will dig find out more about who I am, even if I don’t like what I find at first I will embrace my true self, even if it’s hard.
• I will speak up and stand up for causes and beliefs that are important to me, even if I offend.
• I will pursue my dreams with passion and daring, even if I have to sacrifice personal safety and comfort.
• I will take risks in business and in life, even if I’m unsure and don’t have all the information.

Please join me this year and work on loving who you already are.

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Give yourself credit….

winter yoga walk

For those of you who might not be aware I spent my formative years growing up in Africa, and although I’ve been living in Canada for almost 30 years, winter always catches me by surprise.  I know it’s coming I change my wardrobe, get my house ready, purchase updated protective gear for my kids, celebrate Christmas and then winter comes.  AGAIN!!! I KNOW!!!

It’s CRAZY that I’m surprised every time!! I’m surprised by all the challenges that living with such cold weather brings; surprised by the physical effects, by the emotional effects. I’m surprised every year!

Then I realized something; sometimes  it can be this way with feelings.  You may find yourself in a difficult situation. You may think you’re ready and then it happens and all those feelings and everything else comes back.  AGAIN???  Surprise!!!  You thought you had prepared and here you are AGAIN.

You know what? It’s OK; you are allowed to have those feelings. Because like me and winter, you get to choose how to deal with them.  Sometimes all it takes is a change of perspective.

I go for Winter Yoga Walks. I bundle up and look for things that make me happy and I give myself credit for getting out of the house and coming up with the concept of a Winter Yoga Walk. Then instead of curling up into a ball; I give myself credit for going outside.

I start giving self-credit for every darn thing that it takes for me to handle winter. You know what?  When I give credit for every little accomplishment that I have made; winter can be tolerable. With a change of perspective so can your situation. You are much stronger than you may feel at times. Give yourself credit.


Love Danielle

Are you a crook??


If I was to ask you: “What would you steal? “Chances are you would likely answer “Nothing, not me!” I am no thief.”

This question may prompt one to think about Robert Nixon or robbing a bank or shoplifting. Eating a grape from the super market or not being honest when you get the incorrect change back in your favor.

But stealing can be more than that.  We steal from others unconsciously all of the time.  It may be not material goods but we are all guilty of it.

The green eyed monster can strike in many forms.  We can experience jealousy or envy of another’s success. This is a form of energetic stealing.  By not being supportive we are taking away from their success which steals from our own sense of self-esteem and self-worth.

Last year at the start of 2014 my three boys and I jumped in frozen Lake Ontario as part of the Polar Bear Challenge. It was a baptism of sorts. As a family we had a terrible 2013, my husband and I had almost lost one of our children.  It was not a good year and I vowed to change everything.  What better way than by doing something so crazy and silly and brave. As well as bonding with my boys at the same time with Daddy filming and looking on.  We were so happy and proud of ourselves.

We had great big smiles on our faces and wanted to share the experience with one of our close family members.  “Hey listen and look at what we did!” as we showed them the video.  They looked at us with a blank face, combined with an eye roll and responded: “Try doing it if you are not prepared to. That would be really something.”

Wow!  We were crushed. Our joy and excitement had just been robbed from us.  Stolen right out of the air we were breathing, it felt awful.

Consider your response the next time someone shares good news with you.  Can you genuinely be excited and happy for them, or do you feel the need to “one up” or diminish them?

The more you celebrate the success of others, the more success will flow your way. This I can attest to.

Summer Parenting Moments using Family History..

Sharing their lives with each other

Its summer time and most young people want to be as far away from learning as possible. However summer with its long rides up to the cottage, sun sets and waiting for fish to bite provides an excellent opportunity for you to hang with your kids and re affirm family values.  As the gang was heading to a family reunion this past weekend.  I started telling the kids about the people they were going to see…and where they came from. (Not the Birds and the Bees but our Family History).
Now there may be parts of your family history that you are not proud of, not every family has empty closets. However your family history is just that… History… It’s done and over… It is History… You can tell an edited version of any family story, and use it as a parenting tool. Perhaps you have some issues in your family that are not so nice…For example Uncle so and so who likes to drink lots of beer and tell jokes that make other people uncomfortable.  “Why does he do that Mom???” ” Well  Son if you take into perspective that Grandma was married at the age of  19 to Granddad who was 40 and a wounded World War Two Veteran it’s no surprise that sometimes things were a bit rocky in their relationship… and Uncle So and So had to step in when his parents were not handling things well.  That’s why Uncle So and So acts the way he does sometimes, and is why Dad does not like to drink.”

Lesson taught, perhaps not quite learned, but it’s out there to be used as a parenting tool as situations present themselves.  As I have mentioned before in previous blogs it works better with my kids when I admit that I have done something wrong or dropped the ball.  The kids know that I am not perfect and nor is anyone else.  But there are better ways to handle difficult situations and sometimes it’s best to know the whole story before you judge a person.   And really what pre teen does not want hear the story of  Great Grand Mother Betty who was married 3 times had 12 kids and was  shipwrecked off of the coast of Newfoundland…She lived to be 98…and had bunions…just like Mom…and that’s why you have to carry that stuff because Moms feet hurt… (Warning if Mom has Great Grandmas feet she may have her extended expiry date…So be ready to have her around for a while!)” Please Mom stop now!!” How about you do you use Family Lore as a teaching tool??? Is History really History??? Let me know.






“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” C.S. Lewis

Single Mother and Son Praying

I don’t know about you but I  have found that I instinctively avoid things that humble me. Things that I know that I am not good at or will look silly doing.  I just really don’t want to do or try.

Like running, I’m top heavy (big chested) so I really don’t like running. Well that’s not true. I love watching people run, or anything run for that matter horses, dogs, bugs when they are running out of my sight, my cat, my kids (I know my kids are people, but they run around me a lot!!!) just don’t ask me to run… I am likely to fall on my face.I don’t like being humbled by my own body. Not a good thing for a Yoga Teacher, there is always room for growth.

Accepting my bodies limitations  is different from being actually humbled.  Like many things, humility can be taught one step at a time. Here are a some Non Bendy Yoga things that I try to do to become more adept at being humble.

-Admit when I mess up. No one likes to accept their own mistakes, but doing so builds character and sets a good example for others. I willingly try to admit to the little mistakes with minor consequences and most of the big ones too. Especially with my kids, when I say to them your right I did forget to sign the permission slip or another one of my many parenting faux-pas. They and I know that being a Yoga Mamma does not mean that Mamma is all Om or Namaste.  This I hope will help to prepare all of us for the big mess-ups, which do inevitably happen.

-Learn from those around me, there will always be people who are better than us in certain ways.  (Runners) Don’t envy or resent them, I try learn from them.

-Help others. The best way to become humble is by being humbled. By serving or teaching others, we send the message that their needs are more important than our own.

I suggest that if you wish to make lasting change, slowly add humble actions into your everyday life. The best way to make permanent change is to make humble behavior a habit.



Fall teaches a lesson in Change

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rake and autumn leaves

When your roots are most firm, your branches steady in the winds, when you are the most prepared that’s when everything changes.

Believe me, it’s true.

As I watch the leaf pile raked up yesterday blow back across the lawn this morning it is again apparent no matter how much you prepare something unanticipated will happen.

You wake up, you know, the ritual, the players, the script, what the backdrop is, it is the same every single day. Partner,  kids, moods, songs, food. If it does not go as planned you may get grumpy, (someone used the last of the milk) it sets the tone for your day, or does it???

It can be changed in an instant, a word or gesture, a call. The world has changed, you have changed, life is different and so are you, we may be resistant to change but it is a constant, which can be counted upon.
It’s good to have a constant even if it is change.

I guess this time I will put the hockey net over my leaf pile…That will hold them until the Kids play Ball Hockey.


Have you noticed any big changes this  Fall Season ????


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