If I was to ask you: “What would you steal? “Chances are you would likely answer “Nothing, not me!” I am no thief.”
This question may prompt one to think about Robert Nixon or robbing a bank or shoplifting. Eating a grape from the super market or not being honest when you get the incorrect change back in your favor.
But stealing can be more than that. We steal from others unconsciously all of the time. It may be not material goods but we are all guilty of it.
The green eyed monster can strike in many forms. We can experience jealousy or envy of another’s success. This is a form of energetic stealing. By not being supportive we are taking away from their success which steals from our own sense of self-esteem and self-worth.
Last year at the start of 2014 my three boys and I jumped in frozen Lake Ontario as part of the Polar Bear Challenge. It was a baptism of sorts. As a family we had a terrible 2013, my husband and I had almost lost one of our children. It was not a good year and I vowed to change everything. What better way than by doing something so crazy and silly and brave. As well as bonding with my boys at the same time with Daddy filming and looking on. We were so happy and proud of ourselves.
We had great big smiles on our faces and wanted to share the experience with one of our close family members. “Hey listen and look at what we did!” as we showed them the video. They looked at us with a blank face, combined with an eye roll and responded: “Try doing it if you are not prepared to. That would be really something.”
Wow! We were crushed. Our joy and excitement had just been robbed from us. Stolen right out of the air we were breathing, it felt awful.
Consider your response the next time someone shares good news with you. Can you genuinely be excited and happy for them, or do you feel the need to “one up” or diminish them?
The more you celebrate the success of others, the more success will flow your way. This I can attest to.
As we come upon another gift giving holiday a rather significant one for me (it also happens to be my wedding anniversary 16 years!) I started to ponder the idea of love and charity. As Valentines Day approaches I see the stores become a sea of red white and pink, and listen to my offspring tease my partner about the pressure of having Valentines Day and our Wedding Anniversary on the 14th, and how is Dad going to show Mom that he loves her? Not vice versa so much, I am not getting pressured on what it is I am going to do for him or them for that matter, they know that Mom will kiss Dad, put up some red and white stuff around the house bake cupcakes and boom the holiday is over. But my real question is what’s with giving stuff to show your love??? Why don’t we perhaps just be more charitable??? How about some Non Bendy Yoga Valentines?
Instead of giving your loved ones more stuff why don’t you..
Donate things you don’t need. Some of the easiest items to donate include clothes, books, utensils, shoes, and toys. Charities with thrift stores will sell these items to raise cash for their charity. Day cares, hospitals, and churches may also accept donated items. Donating older items you don’t need anymore is a great way to practice charity for those who have a tight budget. Recently on a Cold Day I gathered up some of the books that have been passed onto me, some of the extra mugs that were taking up space in the kitchen and a couple of boxes of tea and dropped them off at the local Women’s Shelter. That felt like love.
Volunteer. Our time can be as valuable as money or donated items. As a volunteer, you are working to further to goals of whatever organization you choose. Often times, volunteers are needed for community projects and by helping, you are helping your community. Volunteers can also serve those in need more directly by working with children, in soup kitchens or in retirement homes. Serving warm soup in weather like this feels like love.
You can also be charitable in your everyday life. If you see someone who needs a hand, help them out. This may include giving someone a battery jump, helping someone move, or helping someone with directions. Or giving a hug or an ear if they are having a crappy day. These situations happen at random, but by keeping an eye out we can find instances where we can demonstrate charity. That really feels like love.
Kids and grownups learn by example and by showing charity you set a great Non Bendy Yoga Example.
Happy Valentines Day XOXO