Balfon Yoga- Increase self esteem

Give yourself credit….

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Balfon Yoga- Increase self esteem

For those of you who might not be aware I spent my formative years growing up in Africa, and although I’ve been living in Canada for almost 30 years, winter always catches me by surprise.  I know it’s coming I change my wardrobe, get my house ready, purchase updated protective gear for my kids, celebrate Christmas and then winter comes.  AGAIN!!! I KNOW!!!

It’s CRAZY that I’m surprised every time!! I’m surprised by all the challenges that living with such cold weather brings; surprised by the physical effects, by the emotional effects. I’m surprised every year!

Then I realized something; sometimes  it can be this way with feelings.  You may find yourself in a difficult situation. You may think you’re ready and then it happens and all those feelings and everything else comes back.  AGAIN???  Surprise!!!  You thought you had prepared and here you are AGAIN.

You know what? It’s OK; you are allowed to have those feelings. Because like me and winter, you get to choose how to deal with them.  Sometimes all it takes is a change of perspective.

I go for Winter Yoga Walks. I bundle up and look for things that make me happy and I give myself credit for getting out of the house and coming up with the concept of a Winter Yoga Walk. Then instead of curling up into a ball; I give myself credit for going outside.

I start giving self-credit for every darn thing that it takes for me to handle winter. You know what?  When I give credit for every little accomplishment that I have made; winter can be tolerable. With a change of perspective so can your situation. You are much stronger than you may feel at times. Give yourself credit.

 

Love Danielle

You have the power…

imagesG7G0RUFIBalfon Yoga- Increase self esteemI was listening to some vintage or classic rap recently while driving.  I know its vintage because my kids love to remind me that anything that I know all the words to is quite dated or as they like to put it Old School.  “The Power” a song by the German music group Snap! From their album World Power released in 1990 started playing.

 Now this song is particularly known for its hook “I’ve got the power!”  Singing along while doing some pretty awesome upper body grooving at a red light.  (It is not wise to do much lower body moving if your driving.)  I started thinking about power and light.  This is what I came up with and I thought I would share.

Everyone has a light bulb inside of them.

You are the Operator of the switch.

Yes, you have the Power.  The wiring is all set up.

So…

What are you going to do?

I think you should…

turn it on

Oh, and if the switch seems to be stuck – check the bulb.  Is your light turned on?

If it’s off, what can you do to turn it back on?

Do you need a new bulb?

Get one.

The Bill is already paid up.

This song and thought process on a chilly February day is quite possibly one of the best Light Turner-On Activities I’ve ever come up with.

If you would like to enjoy the inspiration for this post here is the link.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=z33tH-JdPDg

Namaste, no pun intended..Danielle

Are you a crook??

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If I was to ask you: “What would you steal? “Chances are you would likely answer “Nothing, not me!” I am no thief.”

This question may prompt one to think about Robert Nixon or robbing a bank or shoplifting. Eating a grape from the super market or not being honest when you get the incorrect change back in your favor.

But stealing can be more than that.  We steal from others unconsciously all of the time.  It may be not material goods but we are all guilty of it.

The green eyed monster can strike in many forms.  We can experience jealousy or envy of another’s success. This is a form of energetic stealing.  By not being supportive we are taking away from their success which steals from our own sense of self-esteem and self-worth.

Last year at the start of 2014 my three boys and I jumped in frozen Lake Ontario as part of the Polar Bear Challenge. It was a baptism of sorts. As a family we had a terrible 2013, my husband and I had almost lost one of our children.  It was not a good year and I vowed to change everything.  What better way than by doing something so crazy and silly and brave. As well as bonding with my boys at the same time with Daddy filming and looking on.  We were so happy and proud of ourselves.

We had great big smiles on our faces and wanted to share the experience with one of our close family members.  “Hey listen and look at what we did!” as we showed them the video.  They looked at us with a blank face, combined with an eye roll and responded: “Try doing it if you are not prepared to. That would be really something.”

Wow!  We were crushed. Our joy and excitement had just been robbed from us.  Stolen right out of the air we were breathing, it felt awful.

Consider your response the next time someone shares good news with you.  Can you genuinely be excited and happy for them, or do you feel the need to “one up” or diminish them?

The more you celebrate the success of others, the more success will flow your way. This I can attest to.

Resolve to Let Go

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Balfon Yoga- Increase self esteem

 

Most of us become quite reflective at this time of year – and for me this year is no exception.

As the final hours of 2014 start winding down, I have found a different approach to the yearly tradition of writing down my goals and resolutions that I decided to try last year is making this time of looking back more of a pleasant experience.  Back in 2013 I suggested the following:  Let’s embrace the idea of self love, and by doing this we will only feed our body and mind with the best. Making these my resolutions…

  •   I will give up limiting beliefs, relationships and habits, even if doing so leaves me naked or vulnerable.
  •   I will ask for help,even if doing so makes me feel or look weak.
  •   I will dig to find out more about who I am, even if I don’t like what I find at first.
  •   I will embrace my true self, even if it’s hard.
  •   I will speak up and stand up for causes and beliefs that are important to me, even if I offend.
  •   I will pursue my dreams with passion and daring, even if I have to sacrifice personal safety or comfort.
  •   I will take risks in business and in life, even if I’m unsure and don’t have all the information.

AND I DID.  This year I accomplished more than I ever thought possible for myself, my family and my clients.

 So you won’t see me be scribbling the usual “This year, I will do this/that” My focus won’t be on how I can change this or how I won’t eat that.  It won’t be on staying more organized or achieving new goals.   

This year, my focus will be on letting go.

What will I be letting go of?  Lot’s, I’m talking truckloads of “stuff”.

Emotional stuff, physical stuff,  my ego stuff, control stuff and all the stuff that isn’t real but hops on our back and weighs us down (like the stories we make up about how scary life will be if we let go of all this stuff!)

  • I will let go and attain a delicious freedom that can propel me into a world of adventure and magic.
  • I will let go and, discover the wonder and clarity that come with living a simplified life.
  • I will let go, and make space for shiny new opportunities that make my heart glow.

By letting go, I am telling the Universe: I AM NOT AFRAID….

And I am pretty sure the universe will answer back…“Okay Friend, it’s about time.  Let’s live your life now!”

I am letting go.  How about you?

What are you willing to let go of in 2015?

Can you have the courage to know that letting go makes you stronger than holding on?

 

“True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.” C.S. Lewis

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Balfon Yoga- Increase self esteem

I don’t know about you but I  have found that I instinctively avoid things that humble me. Things that I know that I am not good at or will look silly doing.  I just really don’t want to do or try.

Like running, I’m top heavy (big chested) so I really don’t like running. Well that’s not true. I love watching people run, or anything run for that matter horses, dogs, bugs when they are running out of my sight, my cat, my kids (I know my kids are people, but they run around me a lot!!!) just don’t ask me to run… I am likely to fall on my face.I don’t like being humbled by my own body. Not a good thing for a Yoga Teacher, there is always room for growth.

Accepting my bodies limitations  is different from being actually humbled.  Like many things, humility can be taught one step at a time. Here are a some Non Bendy Yoga things that I try to do to become more adept at being humble.

-Admit when I mess up. No one likes to accept their own mistakes, but doing so builds character and sets a good example for others. I willingly try to admit to the little mistakes with minor consequences and most of the big ones too. Especially with my kids, when I say to them your right I did forget to sign the permission slip or another one of my many parenting faux-pas. They and I know that being a Yoga Mamma does not mean that Mamma is all Om or Namaste.  This I hope will help to prepare all of us for the big mess-ups, which do inevitably happen.

-Learn from those around me, there will always be people who are better than us in certain ways.  (Runners) Don’t envy or resent them, I try learn from them.

-Help others. The best way to become humble is by being humbled. By serving or teaching others, we send the message that their needs are more important than our own.

I suggest that if you wish to make lasting change, slowly add humble actions into your everyday life. The best way to make permanent change is to make humble behavior a habit.

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Officer I did Nothing!!!

Are you feeling guilty about stuff that is not yours to feel guilty about??

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Balfon Yoga- Increase self esteem

This past weekend my son had a hockey tournament in another town.  As we were rushing out the door I got a heads up from one of the other  Hockey Moms who had spotted a speed trap and let me know about it.  Sure enough just where I would have pressed a little harder on the gas there it was.

Once I got to the rink I thanked the proactive parent and then immediately felt guilty for not passing the word along.  Another parent could really have benefited from me making a call.  They got a big speeding ticket and lost some points. Both things they can’t afford. But I did not call ( I actually did not have their number…well I did but  looking up that number and everyone else’s number and calling  would have made me late,) So they got a ticket for driving too fast and breaking the law and I felt lousy!!!

For some reason I felt that the speeding ticket that they got was my fault!!!

Have you ever found yourself caught up in the drama of others? Then wound up feeling resentful and drained from all the energy you needlessly used?

I decided it was time to practice some Non BendyYoga and take full responsibility for what I had done. Nothing!!! I had done nothing . Nothing wrong, nothing to feel ashamed about…Nothing!!! It was my job to disconnect from the burden that I had chosen to carry.  

Knowing what we are and are not responsible for in our lives creates a unique type of freedom. Here are some examples were you may be taking on a burden that’s not yours.

You are NOT responsible for colleagues who cause a toxic work environment.

You ARE responsible for coming up with a plan on how you are going to work in it, or find something new. 

You are NOT responsible for your sisters’ divorce or the demise of any relationship.

You ARE responsible for what you do in your own relationships.

You are NOT responsible for your child declining their higher education and as a result ruining their perceived future.

You ARE responsible for your own education and future.

You are NOT responsible for your brother going bankrupt.

You ARE responsible for your own financial situation.

You are NOT responsible for the happiness and joy of others.

You ARE responsible for creating your own happiness.   

Letting go removes many of the energetic and karmic responsibility we choose to carry for others. When we refrain from allowing others to step their place of responsibility and accountability we steal their opportunity for personal growth and spiritual, development.

With the world moving at such a fast pace, and other peoples life situations constantly surrounding us it’s easy to get pulled into the big and little burdens of others, while turning a blind eye on our own struggles.

Know when to stand up and be accountable.  Know to do nothing.

Do you take on the burdens of others?  If so are you able to let go?? Lets Talk…

Danielle Intuitive Life/Yoga Coach

 

Fall teaches a lesson in Change

Balfon Yoga- Increase self esteem

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When your roots are most firm, your branches steady in the winds, when you are the most prepared that’s when everything changes.

Believe me, it’s true.

As I watch the leaf pile raked up yesterday blow back across the lawn this morning it is again apparent no matter how much you prepare something unanticipated will happen.

You wake up, you know, the ritual, the players, the script, what the backdrop is, it is the same every single day. Partner,  kids, moods, songs, food. If it does not go as planned you may get grumpy, (someone used the last of the milk) it sets the tone for your day, or does it???

It can be changed in an instant, a word or gesture, a call. The world has changed, you have changed, life is different and so are you, we may be resistant to change but it is a constant, which can be counted upon.
It’s good to have a constant even if it is change.

I guess this time I will put the hockey net over my leaf pile…That will hold them until the Kids play Ball Hockey.

 

Have you noticed any big changes this  Fall Season ????

 

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