Dear God its me Danielle. A breast cancer story.

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Are you there God it’s me Dani. Mom gave me a copy of the new Judy Blume Book, Are you there “God it’s me Margaret” and I just finished reading it.   What a really cool book. I was wondering God if you could help me out like you helped out Margaret.

Margaret really wanted her period to happen I don’t really care about that, but I’d really like to grow some boobs. Laurie and Sylvie have them, and it looks like Bev and Tiffany are starting to grow some too I don’t have anything. All I have is that stupid picture of me that we took by the Eiffel Tower where I’m wearing a bikini. It’s not a real bikini my face is shoved into hole with a painting of some cartoon figure that’s got a way more developed body than mine. Bruno says he would kiss me if I had boobs that big. Nobody wants to kiss me now.

Please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Hi God it’s me Dani. I’ve been praying for boobs now forever! Every night for at least two months! And I have grown nothing. Not even a pimple.

Please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Are you there God it’s me Dani I start boarding school next week and I still don’t have boobs and in setting me up Mom bought me a bunch of bras. She won’t be around while I’m at school. Lucky Her! Mom will be back home. So she bought me “One of every kind!” Kind of a waste of money I think.

Please God? Hail Mary, full of Grace.

Are you there God it’s me Danielle. I’m using my real name now because I am tired of the other girls calling me “Danny Boy” I thought I might be getting fat a because now I’m eating as many chips I want to for the first time in my whole life. (Mom is not around to nag). Chips are not making my face look any better. “It looks like a flower garden full of white and red roses.” As Mom would say. However I think I might be getting boobs!

Can you make them this big please God? Hail Mary, full of Grace.

Are you there God it’s me Danielle thank you for the boobs it’s totally cool going back home for Christmas and finally having boobs! I’ve packed “One of every kind of bra” just for the hell of it!!

Thanks God! Hail Mary, full of Grace.

Are you there God it’s me Danielle I need some help with these boobs. Please help me get them to work. I know it’s been at least 15 years since you and I talked about them. Thanks for them, they worked great! I filled out my prom and wedding dress with them and my darling husband loves them. But right now I’m sitting here with this squalling creature trying to stuff my nipple into its mouth. They are huge and they hurt and this tiny creature can’t seem to get its little mouth onto something that’s the size of its head.

Can you help please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

 

Are you there God it’s me Danielle I’ve had a million people handling these boobs and no success going to the breast-feeding clinic please this baby is not gaining weight as he should. Can you help please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Are you there God it’s me Dani. I know we’ve spoken about other topics quite a bit in the past for the past few years. But I’m asking another favor about my boobs. I know a bitched and whined complained and said they were too big and too small or leaky or saggy but right now I just like to be able to test negative and be able to keep them.

Please God? Hail Mary full of Grace

Doing some spring cleaning??? Brush off your yoga mat.

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Getting your Groove Back

Are you new to yoga?  Or do you just need a refresher. Yoga can be challenging for a beginner and a challange to get back too. This article will help ease your transition into or back into the world of yoga.

Find a good space to practice in.  You do not need a whole lot of space to prcatice yoga.  For my personal practice I like to change it up a bit, the sunny front window when my gang has gone off for school is one place I like.  In the spring I love to roll my mat out where my bulbs are blooming in the yard.  The smell of things just popping up is so wonderful.

Purchase a quality sticky mat. You can find them all over the place, I have several. When I started teaching yoga, mats became the go to gift for many that wanted to support my endeavor. I have a whole bunch of fancy ones but I really like my old cat scrached glitter stuck kinda dirty bubble gum pink mat.  I have had it for ever and it is a good friend to me.  When its looking a little loved on I just toss it in the washer on the gentle cycle with a couple of towels pull it out before the the rest of the laundry hits the dryer.

Take breaks to focus on your breathing.

Get a good night’s sleep.

Shut out negativity.

While much of yoga can be intimidating, it’s easier to master than it may seem. I hope these tips will help get you started or restarted on your journey into the world of yoga.

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Let’s Make Resolutions

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In our hearts we know the best thing to do, but fail to do it. New Year’s resolutions are great examples of this. We make resolutions because we know it would be better for us to lose weight, or get fit, or spend more time with those that matter most to us. The problem is that a resolution is generally easier to break than it is to keep. This year let’s try something new. We are going to cast aside the idea that we need improvement, this year we will accept who we are and understand that by doing so we are empowering ourselves to take the path that is best suited for us. Let’s embrace the idea of self love, and by doing this we will only feed our body and mind with the best. Lets make these our resolutions…
• I will love, laugh and hug everyone more often, even if others think I am crazy.
• I will give up limiting beliefs, relationships and habits, even if doing so leaves me naked and vulnerable and scared.
• I will ask for help, even if doing so makes me feel or look weak or silly.
• I will dig find out more about who I am, even if I don’t like what I find at first I will embrace my true self, even if it’s hard.
• I will speak up and stand up for causes and beliefs that are important to me, even if I offend.
• I will pursue my dreams with passion and daring, even if I have to sacrifice personal safety and comfort.
• I will take risks in business and in life, even if I’m unsure and don’t have all the information.

Please join me this year and work on loving who you already are.
Namaste
Danielle

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Give yourself credit….

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For those of you who might not be aware I spent my formative years growing up in Africa, and although I’ve been living in Canada for almost 30 years, winter always catches me by surprise.  I know it’s coming I change my wardrobe, get my house ready, purchase updated protective gear for my kids, celebrate Christmas and then winter comes.  AGAIN!!! I KNOW!!!

It’s CRAZY that I’m surprised every time!! I’m surprised by all the challenges that living with such cold weather brings; surprised by the physical effects, by the emotional effects. I’m surprised every year!

Then I realized something; sometimes  it can be this way with feelings.  You may find yourself in a difficult situation. You may think you’re ready and then it happens and all those feelings and everything else comes back.  AGAIN???  Surprise!!!  You thought you had prepared and here you are AGAIN.

You know what? It’s OK; you are allowed to have those feelings. Because like me and winter, you get to choose how to deal with them.  Sometimes all it takes is a change of perspective.

I go for Winter Yoga Walks. I bundle up and look for things that make me happy and I give myself credit for getting out of the house and coming up with the concept of a Winter Yoga Walk. Then instead of curling up into a ball; I give myself credit for going outside.

I start giving self-credit for every darn thing that it takes for me to handle winter. You know what?  When I give credit for every little accomplishment that I have made; winter can be tolerable. With a change of perspective so can your situation. You are much stronger than you may feel at times. Give yourself credit.

 

Love Danielle

Guilt free chocolate eating… a Valentines Yoga Meditation…

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If you know me at all you know that I am not about depriving oneself of anything.  I know for some who have embraced a different path however this time of year may be difficult; what with the items in the picture above being presented in abundance.  I offer this suggestion on how to enjoy this treat at this time of year with the knowledge that you are doing a good thing.

 Mindful Eating.

This mindful eating exercise may be especially pleasing to some because it involves chocolate.  If you have food issues there’s no need to fear; this exercise is waistline friendly as we only need one or two pieces of chocolate, or at best three.

In order to complete this exercise you will need one or two squares of chocolate, alternatively a couple of chocolates or a small chocolate bar cut in half.  It’s Valentines weekend so I imagine that you may be able to find some quite easily.

Step one:

Examine the  chocolate be aware of the packaging and the smell that comes through the paper. 

Feel the anticipation; open the bar or box and watch how the wrapper comes away, how it crinkles and crackles; then reveals the chocolate within.  Notice how the chocolate looks, observe the texture, the aroma, any imperfections made in its manufacture.

Break up a square and breathe in the aroma. Look at it carefully, observe the sheen, the decoration on it, the way it has broken off from the bar.  You don’t have to stare at it just look at it for what it is.  How does it feel in your hand, smell it again; the sweetness

Take a bite or place the square in your mouth.  Feel the sensation as your tongue savors the flavor of it. What can you taste?  What is the texture like rolling around in your mouth?  Pay close attention to the changing texture and taste.  Notice how it starts to change from what was once a solid.  Can you focus on all the characteristics until the chocolate has been eaten and all that remains is the lingering aftertaste?  Did you enjoy it? Can you feel the flavor that’s left in your mouth?

Step two-the comparison step

Take the second piece of chocolate but eat it how you normally would.  Which for most of us means to pop it in your mouth give it a couple of chews and then gulp.  Did you experience any difference?  Did it taste the same; worse or better?

Which one was better the first time or the second?

I’m willing to bet all my Valentine chocolate that the first experience was much more pleasurable and satisfying! You may have even been content with just the one taste. All your wants or cravings for chocolate may have been satisfied.

After number two you most likely felt like doing number one over again.  Its ok you can it’s Valentines after all.

Love yourself.

XOXOX Danielle

You have the power…

imagesG7G0RUFIBalfon Yoga- Increase self esteemI was listening to some vintage or classic rap recently while driving.  I know its vintage because my kids love to remind me that anything that I know all the words to is quite dated or as they like to put it Old School.  “The Power” a song by the German music group Snap! From their album World Power released in 1990 started playing.

 Now this song is particularly known for its hook “I’ve got the power!”  Singing along while doing some pretty awesome upper body grooving at a red light.  (It is not wise to do much lower body moving if your driving.)  I started thinking about power and light.  This is what I came up with and I thought I would share.

Everyone has a light bulb inside of them.

You are the Operator of the switch.

Yes, you have the Power.  The wiring is all set up.

So…

What are you going to do?

I think you should…

turn it on

Oh, and if the switch seems to be stuck – check the bulb.  Is your light turned on?

If it’s off, what can you do to turn it back on?

Do you need a new bulb?

Get one.

The Bill is already paid up.

This song and thought process on a chilly February day is quite possibly one of the best Light Turner-On Activities I’ve ever come up with.

If you would like to enjoy the inspiration for this post here is the link.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=z33tH-JdPDg

Namaste, no pun intended..Danielle

Are you a crook??

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If I was to ask you: “What would you steal? “Chances are you would likely answer “Nothing, not me!” I am no thief.”

This question may prompt one to think about Robert Nixon or robbing a bank or shoplifting. Eating a grape from the super market or not being honest when you get the incorrect change back in your favor.

But stealing can be more than that.  We steal from others unconsciously all of the time.  It may be not material goods but we are all guilty of it.

The green eyed monster can strike in many forms.  We can experience jealousy or envy of another’s success. This is a form of energetic stealing.  By not being supportive we are taking away from their success which steals from our own sense of self-esteem and self-worth.

Last year at the start of 2014 my three boys and I jumped in frozen Lake Ontario as part of the Polar Bear Challenge. It was a baptism of sorts. As a family we had a terrible 2013, my husband and I had almost lost one of our children.  It was not a good year and I vowed to change everything.  What better way than by doing something so crazy and silly and brave. As well as bonding with my boys at the same time with Daddy filming and looking on.  We were so happy and proud of ourselves.

We had great big smiles on our faces and wanted to share the experience with one of our close family members.  “Hey listen and look at what we did!” as we showed them the video.  They looked at us with a blank face, combined with an eye roll and responded: “Try doing it if you are not prepared to. That would be really something.”

Wow!  We were crushed. Our joy and excitement had just been robbed from us.  Stolen right out of the air we were breathing, it felt awful.

Consider your response the next time someone shares good news with you.  Can you genuinely be excited and happy for them, or do you feel the need to “one up” or diminish them?

The more you celebrate the success of others, the more success will flow your way. This I can attest to.

Resolve to Let Go

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Most of us become quite reflective at this time of year – and for me this year is no exception.

As the final hours of 2014 start winding down, I have found a different approach to the yearly tradition of writing down my goals and resolutions that I decided to try last year is making this time of looking back more of a pleasant experience.  Back in 2013 I suggested the following:  Let’s embrace the idea of self love, and by doing this we will only feed our body and mind with the best. Making these my resolutions…

  •   I will give up limiting beliefs, relationships and habits, even if doing so leaves me naked or vulnerable.
  •   I will ask for help,even if doing so makes me feel or look weak.
  •   I will dig to find out more about who I am, even if I don’t like what I find at first.
  •   I will embrace my true self, even if it’s hard.
  •   I will speak up and stand up for causes and beliefs that are important to me, even if I offend.
  •   I will pursue my dreams with passion and daring, even if I have to sacrifice personal safety or comfort.
  •   I will take risks in business and in life, even if I’m unsure and don’t have all the information.

AND I DID.  This year I accomplished more than I ever thought possible for myself, my family and my clients.

 So you won’t see me be scribbling the usual “This year, I will do this/that” My focus won’t be on how I can change this or how I won’t eat that.  It won’t be on staying more organized or achieving new goals.   

This year, my focus will be on letting go.

What will I be letting go of?  Lot’s, I’m talking truckloads of “stuff”.

Emotional stuff, physical stuff,  my ego stuff, control stuff and all the stuff that isn’t real but hops on our back and weighs us down (like the stories we make up about how scary life will be if we let go of all this stuff!)

  • I will let go and attain a delicious freedom that can propel me into a world of adventure and magic.
  • I will let go and, discover the wonder and clarity that come with living a simplified life.
  • I will let go, and make space for shiny new opportunities that make my heart glow.

By letting go, I am telling the Universe: I AM NOT AFRAID….

And I am pretty sure the universe will answer back…“Okay Friend, it’s about time.  Let’s live your life now!”

I am letting go.  How about you?

What are you willing to let go of in 2015?

Can you have the courage to know that letting go makes you stronger than holding on?

 

Summer Parenting Moments using Family History..

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Its summer time and most young people want to be as far away from learning as possible. However summer with its long rides up to the cottage, sun sets and waiting for fish to bite provides an excellent opportunity for you to hang with your kids and re affirm family values.  As the gang was heading to a family reunion this past weekend.  I started telling the kids about the people they were going to see…and where they came from. (Not the Birds and the Bees but our Family History).
Now there may be parts of your family history that you are not proud of, not every family has empty closets. However your family history is just that… History… It’s done and over… It is History… You can tell an edited version of any family story, and use it as a parenting tool. Perhaps you have some issues in your family that are not so nice…For example Uncle so and so who likes to drink lots of beer and tell jokes that make other people uncomfortable.  “Why does he do that Mom???” ” Well  Son if you take into perspective that Grandma was married at the age of  19 to Granddad who was 40 and a wounded World War Two Veteran it’s no surprise that sometimes things were a bit rocky in their relationship… and Uncle So and So had to step in when his parents were not handling things well.  That’s why Uncle So and So acts the way he does sometimes, and is why Dad does not like to drink.”

Lesson taught, perhaps not quite learned, but it’s out there to be used as a parenting tool as situations present themselves.  As I have mentioned before in previous blogs it works better with my kids when I admit that I have done something wrong or dropped the ball.  The kids know that I am not perfect and nor is anyone else.  But there are better ways to handle difficult situations and sometimes it’s best to know the whole story before you judge a person.   And really what pre teen does not want hear the story of  Great Grand Mother Betty who was married 3 times had 12 kids and was  shipwrecked off of the coast of Newfoundland…She lived to be 98…and had bunions…just like Mom…and that’s why you have to carry that stuff because Moms feet hurt… (Warning if Mom has Great Grandmas feet she may have her extended expiry date…So be ready to have her around for a while!)” Please Mom stop now!!” How about you do you use Family Lore as a teaching tool??? Is History really History??? Let me know.

Danielle

 

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How to be Patient

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Never cut a tree down in the wintertime. Never make a negative decision in the low time. Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods. Wait. Be patient. The storm will pass. The spring will come.Robert H. Schuller

Some days I love advice like this and other days I find myself wishing the microwave would cook my meal faster.  As if waiting 4 minutes for an organic burrito is a long time.  This time of year it seems exceptionally difficult to be patient when the whole world outside is teaching patience but it seems the rest of the world is moving faster and faster, time for some non bendy yoga tips on what you and I can do to make this time of year a little easier by being patient with ourselves and others.

Have patience be your goal for the entire day. Take a day and make a serious effort to take your time and think about everything you do. Live in the moment and be mindful of yourself and your surroundings. Think of your day as a movie where you can hit “pause” at any time. Take regular pauses and at the end of the day think over all the decisions you made.

Slow down. Sometimes we must rush, but we think we need to rush more than we actually do. If you are hitting pause a few times each day, you will likely notice when you are rushing for no reason. When this happens, just stop for a minute and practice some non bendy yoga by taking a few deep breaths.

Think before you speak. This means that you pause and consider what you’re going to say before you say it. If we blurt out the first thought that comes to mind without considering the consequences, we often find ourselves saying stupid or offensive things. Practice this for as long as you can.

I’d love to hear from you … Let me know how being patient works for you.